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Mae Jacolo Aguilar”apple”Nurse Writer.Researcher.-elicits toxic reaction by annoyance

How do I piss off a narcissist?

This narcissistic writer got pissed off reading my articles pertaining to narcissistic schemes and victimizing acts (SLEEPING with the REAL ENEMY …barking up the wrong tree — UNAPOLOGETICALLY ME — Quora). Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation — Brené Brown Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work.( Wikipedia) According to her, SHAME, SCARCITY and COMPARISON are the usual considerations whenever you put your work out there…

I will discuss this based on HUMAN BEHAVIOR of a NARCISSIST.

 

SHAME

Narcissists react to something that triggers them to feel ashamed of themselves. You being the source of that” trigger”, are the most tangible target for these insecure beings. My article, SLEEPING with the REAL ENEMY … talks about “flying monkeys”, a popular Psychology term for someone who does the narcissist’s bidding to inflict additional torment to the narcissist’s victim. (edit)Urban Dictionary: flying monkey. It describes the role of both male and female spouses in a codependent relationship with a NARCISSIST. A narcissist reacting at such high level of aggression to this kind of material is a strong indication that the person has sustained a blatant injury to his/her ego. — -NARCISSISTIC INJURY

* Narcissistic rage is a reaction to narcissistic injury, which is a perceived threat to a narcissist’s self-esteem or self-worth. Narcissistic injury (or narcissistic scar) is a phrase used by Sigmund Freud in the 1920s; narcissistic wound and narcissistic blow are further, almost interchangeable terms.(Narcissistic rage and narcissistic injury — Wikipedia)

It is no surprise for this particular narcissist to feel guilty upon reading it, as It probably vividly describes this narcissist’s present situation in life, no less…

Narcissists are capable of recruiting vulnerable people around usually part of their circle or unit. These become the “flying monkeys”/ attack dogs that would serve a good purpose to their advantage. Candidates for this role would usually be the closest persons to the NARC and top of the list is ,’THE SPOUSE”/ LOVER/PARTNER.

YES, YOU… *sigh*. THE SPOUSE WHO IS MOST WILLING TO FOLLOW ORDERS — -CODEPENDENCY-It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive.(Co-Dependency) Codependent personalities usually follow a pattern of behaviors that are consistent, problematic, and directly interfere with the individual’s emotional health and ability to find fulfillment in a relationship.

“Signs of codependency include excessive caretaking, controlling, and preoccupation with people and things outside of ourselves,” says Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse, a consultant, educator, and author of numerous books, including Understanding Codependency.

“Narcissistic enablers & flying monkeys often appear to be naive, blindly believing in the narcissist’s lies, or afraid of the narcissist. The truth is very few people are genuinely this naive. Many of these people are covert narcissists. Covert narcissists aren’t so bold as their overt counterparts. They don’t like being in the spotlight, but they still want attention & admiration as much as an overt narcissist. They simply go about getting it in quieter ways. They can appear the martyr, the long suffering if they’re married to an overt narcissist. “She must be such a good, patient woman to put up with him,” people may say. You can recognize these irritating people quickly by their behavior. Normal, healthy people don’t side with someone who is obviously abusive. They may not begin a huge public protest, but they at the very least say, “That’s wrong.” They realize that neutrality only helps the abuser, not the victim.

Healthy people also question things, they don’t blindly believe what they are told. If something sounds outlandish, unbelievable or even just “off,” most people would question the person stating such things.”, says CynthiaBaileyRug, Christian writer of various genres- self-help, overcoming narcissistic abuse, Christian living, animals, mysteries/Christian thrillers.(Cynthia Bailey-Rug, Christian Author)


 

SCARCITY

Obviously narcissistic people are insecure and envious of other people’s achievements. They feel void and not able to live up to the world’s expectations, which is why they are in constant competition with everybody.(including people who just don’t want to have anything to do with them) This over competitive attitude of a narcissist is a manifestation of his /her shortcomings and in capabilities. They see something valuable in others that they do not have and they want that for themselves. Someone who is uniquely creative and bold about him/herself always stirs up conversations and attention unintentionally, and this irritates the narcissists. Did you know that narcissists have psychopathic tendencies?( … and YOU HATE ART. hmmm — i call u K for kowardly accomplice; a histrionic life…)This why they lack appreciation for ART and criticize the CREATIVES. They don’t have empathy which is the source of artistic inclination and they are aware of that fact. Spotlight is everything to the narcissists, as this serves their emotional supply, much like food and water if you will… They strive so much to be appreciated, everything they do in life is a product of their yearning for social acceptance and stardom. They are most willing to do anything to put down another person they see as a threat. So desperate that they do not mind shaming themselves in public just to deal with this emotional agony against the person they target.

Narcissists will fight with tooth and nail to regain popularity by all means… Even if this means sending spam messages like a loser, wearing stupid shirts with someone’s name on it, impersonating the target, among others. They lack something and that something is what you have.


 

COMPARISSON

Who in their right mind would want to be compared to anyone else? NO ONE.

Not even the narcissists themselves, but they cannot help but feel small all the time. The reason why narcissists are so good in putting on a perfect facade in public is, COMPARISON. They actually admire the people they hate on at the same time. A tug -of-war thing going on, because they can not accept the fact that they are inferior to someone. They like to be “the STAR” of the show , not “the FAN”. AS A RESULT OF THIS DILEMMA, THEY VENTURE INTO MANY SCHEMES TO PROTECT THEIR FRAIL EGO. You may see them wearing the same clothing as yours, dine in the same restaurants, follow the same career path, criticize your work if you are an artist, desperately argue with your point of view, if you are a writer they might claim having the same inclination and publish similar articles to the point of stealing your topics, if you rescue animals knowing they can’t do the same thing, all they can do is bash you instead, etc, etc. All for one reason and that is, they want other people to affirm their sense superiority over others.

REFERENCE: Do You Have a Codependent Personality

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Mae Jacolo Aguilar”apple”THE MULTI- TOPIC BLOG- writes about personal interests& passion.specializing on HUMAN BEHAVIOR. elicits toxic reaction by annoyance.certified weirdo& a nurse

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