TOXIC people (histrionics/narcissists/bpd/anti-socials) are wired on social acceptance and the regular people(neurotypicals) are just basically concerned about being true to themselves no matter what. Sticking to what is true incurs strong oppositions which causes friction among people. Despite all of that a genuinely confident person would still choose to stand by what is proper based on moral obligation. A truly competent person in his/her field of work is straight forward and shows no hesitations in pointing out an idea to support his/her argument. This no non sense behavior is mostly mistaken by many as arrogance in the sense that people pursuing the truth might appear somewhat stubborn. Since swimming against the current and being un orthodoxed as we all know makes you unpopular and considered a minority. Normal people do not care about pleasing the majority so long as they are on the right track. This is how a mentally strong individual behaves. They are able to regulate and at the same time express their emotions with out the need of suppressing them.
On the other hand, you may spot the FAKE, a person who is trying so hard to appear tough in the outside yet FRAGILE on the inside. These people are downright arrogant no matter how they disguise themselves as this “people person” bla bla bla. — -PHONY ACT
There is only one thing you should keep in mind, MOTIVATION.
TOXIC PEOPLE are very particular about other people’s impression, they are obsessed with popularity and they live for attention. They make sure everything is perfectly presented in public and acting weirdly rehearsed as a conning maneuver.The general crowd would always go for people pleasers who may look stiff at first / act like someone important and all of a sudden shape shifting into this everybody’s pal/gal if you will. The crowd tends to become easily beguiled into believing that somehow this person of a higher stature is humble enough to come down from that pedestal and join the peasants’ row.
Don’t you ever fall for it… This is a classic Narcissistic scheme to lure you in.
Ihave been interacting with these conning bastards as a Psych researcher for 8 years and the one thing I can share with you is that they are experts in detecting people’s weak points, insecurities, desires etc , etc.. While born with out EMPATHY, detached from their CONSCIENCE they are endowed with the SNIFF-DOG ability. It is the esteem that they target thereby demoralizing a person, to the point of causing someone to get high, almost hypnotic in a way and finally rendering the target helplessly compliant. — -fanaticism
They mask their arrogance with HUMBLE BRAGGING.
to make a seemingly modest, self-critical, or casual statement or reference that is meant to draw attention to one’s admirable or impressive qualities or achievements. Definition of HUMBLEBRAG
The most interesting part of it is that humblebragging narcs are mostly the ones who are less informed, inexperienced and under qualified.
In the field of psychology, the Dunning–Kruger effect is a cognitive bias in which people of low ability have illusory superiority and mistakenly assess their cognitive ability as greater than it is. Dunning–Kruger effect — Wikipedia
A clear indication that the person is an assuming arrogant PATHOLOGICAL NARCISSIST:
A bar tender discussing delicate topics about Psychology
An incompetent medical professional such as a negligent Nurse having difficulty giving the right medication to His /Her patients discussing about S-M-A-R-T Method and women’s health.
A gamer who lives a sedentary lifestyle assumingly critiques mental health blogs.
A Histrionic lacking social manners capable of physical assault preaching restaurant etiquette and social graces
A Malignant Narc blogging about life and relationships
What do they have in common? NO CREDENTIALS TO SUPPORT THEIR CLAIMS OF BEING SUCH so so gurus. Some may have over publicized their achievements and legitimize some childish hobbies. — -exageration
“ Narcissists are by nature frauds who lie, exaggerate, and brag about themselves and denigrate others to bolster their image.” https://www.huffingtonpost.com/….…
”They are generally “grandiose”, which means they have an inflated or exaggerated opinion of their positive traits and / or abilities.”Understanding the Narcissist — a Closer Look at Narcissistic Personality Disorder
These are just losers and social nuisance misleading many people for their selfish agenda.
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